Why? Your dating life will be very dramatic.
Realize that dating someone like you is different from dating someone with similar interests (you can date your opposite and still enjoy the same activities!).
Of course, there are some downsides to dating someone who isn’t like you.
Usually, problems begin from a misunderstanding of your fundamental differences, and these dissimilarities might seem like a personal attack against the other. For example, I’ve been told I’m distant and don’t share much information about myself. I’m not trying to be cold but being a reserved person, it’s very hard and awkward to share intimate details. It’s not that I don’t want to explain my feelings; I don’t know how to.
Being with someone different forces you to empathize with the other person: Am I really a cold-hearted bitch?
Aside from some potential conflict, dating your compete opposite is amazing and the pros outweigh the cons so here are 7 reasons to find the guy who is nothing like you:
When your dramatic ass is up in the clouds, he brings you back down to reality. He may not do it in the most graceful way and may piss you off, but if you keep an open heart, his genuine intentions give you insight .
After a while, you’ll exchange ideas. You’ll probably disagree, but will begin to question trivial things: Should I really ruin my day because my boss was a smart-ass? Maybe I am overreacting because that guy was staring.
His side of the story will make you think twice about your own views and prejudices. Not everything is black and white! Looking through his lens gives a radical perspective opening your own mind to different viewpoints. The maturity and depth of understanding is is one of the best things you can get from someone who isn’t like you.
You can live vicariously through him. Sometimes, I’m not confident enough to do something goofy or make a fool of myself in public, and that’s when he steps in. It’s nice to have the same experience next to someone who has the self-confidence and control of the situation. These kind of moments help you to break out of your comfort zone.
Some confrontations will force you to question your relationship and ask the hard questions: Are we really compatible? Do I love this person?
Some people think this is a bad way of thinking, but there’s nothing wrong with questioning your relationship. When you start asking the tough questions, you find the meaningful answers.
Relationships are like puzzles with missing pieces: it’s up to both of you to find and place each piece in its proper position. Sometimes, situations will take more of your effort, other times his, but most often both of you will have to put the same work into the relationship. Little by little that puzzle will show you a clearer picture of what the two of you compose.
Your tastes might clash, but you’ll pick up new tastes along the way! Whether it’s movies, music, hobbies or foods, get ready to enjoy what you thought you’d never like.
Plus, when you keep an open mind and find commonality, you’ll grow closer.
For the times when you really just aren’t interested in the same events or hobbies, you’ll get a break for yourself.
This is when you really appreciate your boyfriend for being so different. I mean, would you really want to do the same thing with the same person all the time?
Having your own interests is healthy to keep you feeling independent. Plus, time spent away makes you think more of your man so when you’re together those moments can be more fulfilling.
There you have it, go find yourself a guy who is nothing like you! Can you think of other reasons? Let me know!